Hello everyone, Swetha here!
Recently a former student of mine told me that they assess their partnerships according to something I said in class a long time ago. Needless to say, I didn’t remember what I had said, but I’m glad they reminded me - it totally resonated for me (again?) personally as someone who went through one of those pandemic separations. 🫢
What I had said was: “relationships are like two trees growing beside each other. Each has it’s own roots, and each has to grow on their own. If you want to stay together, the goal is to grow together, because if one or the other stops, it won’t work.”
If two people don’t grow together at some point it will be unequal, or “off” - that is not to mean that things need to end. That is a time to question if there is capacity for some catching up - can the person who has grown wait or help the other to grow? Does the other person WANT TO grow?
I think answering those questions can be a good way to start assessing where things are going between two people.
My personal take is that everyone needs to be with who they want to be with, and everyone deserves someone who wants to be with them.
It’s a tough terrain but trees do grow here.
Sending you all good vibes,
-Swetha
// Originally posted on Instagram on February 2nd, 2023.